Chasing the Wrong People

Ask yourself the following questions. Is the person causing you unhappiness worthy to be your friend? Does she have the same values and interests as you do? Do you enjoy being with her? Do you admire her? Why? If someone is causing you emotional turmoil, she is not a friend. I always give someone too many chances to treat me better, but I’m actually giving her more chances to hurt me by continuing to interact with her. I don’t have to be hateful to another person, but if she does not make me happy in some way, I am not obligated to include that person in my life, and I especially should not make efforts to include her if she has disrespected me. I can forgive her and pray for her, but I don’t have time for hurtful actions.

It can be tricky sometimes to tell the difference between a friend and a manipulator. A friend supports you and is happy for your success, a manipulator uses you when she has a need. She is judging you one minute, hugging you, and telling you she loves you the next. Please don’t fall for it.

We all have value, and we deserve to be treated well and celebrated. Don’t chase after the people who don’t do that.