6 Relationship red flags

Any relationship can take some work, and you have to invest some time for it to grow, but even though there are occasional rough spots, there are some red flags that are signs that maybe this relationship is not healthy for you. Here are my top ten.

It feels difficult

As I said, every relationship takes some work, and you can have disagreements, but it shouldn’t feel like a chore to be with someone.

You feel controlled

Does the other person in the relationship fix/change everything you do because his way is the right way? Is only one person allowed to make decisions, and it isn’t you?  

You do not feel valued

When you are treated with condescension, derision, or hatefulness that does not translate to love or friendship.

There is a lack of trust

In a good relationship, you should be able to trust each other. If you are checking each other’s phones or waiting for someone to slip up and reveal a secret, it might not be the relationship for you. Not being honest with each other is a bad sign.

You feel like you are in competition

A good relationship should involve mutual support. Some fun competitiveness is fine, but when it becomes hateful, it’s a red flag.

You do not feel supported  

When your friend or partner does not support your dreams or passions, and might even be happier if you failed, that is a red flag.