This is a controversial subject because writers deserve to be paid for their work, but unfortunately, we are often offered a chance to be published without pay. I would say it is a good idea to write for free in two situations.

The first example of when I think it is appropriate to write for free is when you need to build a portfolio of published work. Editors and publishers often want to see clips of your writing or see proof that you are an established writer. You want to create a writer’s footprint so you can be easily found in an internet search. Writing for free is an easy way to create this portfolio. Most local media is looking for content, so ask local newspapers and magazines if you can write for them.

The second time I think it is okay to write for free is when you want to support a cause. I write a free column about fitness for a local ministry. It is a small way to help my community.

After you have created clips and established a writing resume you should realize that your time and work have value, and you should be paid for your talents. Always ask yourself where is your time best spent. If you want to spend it writing for free then that is your choice, but it is also okay to expect payment for services rendered.

This is the first in a blog/video series called A Writer’s Life. Through the blog series, I will give you information on the various aspects of being a writer. This first piece is something to consider before you commit to a writing life.

You might have been thinking about doing some writing and wondering what it involves and if you would be good at it. Let me give you a few points to consider.

• You should like to write. If you are only thinking that this might be a good way to earn some extra cash, but you don’t enjoy the idea of writing on a regular basis, this might not be for you.
• You need to be patient. It takes time to find followers and build an audience. Very few writers are huge successes overnight.
• Consistency is key. Not only does practicing your craft make you better, but it also helps others notice you. Your audience wants more and when you can provide that they will spread the word.
• Be willing to learn and grow even when you can call yourself a veteran writer. You never want to feel that you have learned everything because improving is always possible. Read other writer’s advice and writing. Find out what other people do to be successful.
• Be willing to be vulnerable. When you begin to publish your work you will be opening yourself up to criticism and judgment, but you also could be helping a myriad of people in more ways than you know. Words are powerful and your words could potentially change someone’s life.
• Observe and listen. Listen to the stories around you. Watch people and read the news. All of that will help your writing.
• Don’t give up. There will be days when you wonder if you are any good at writing. It is when you allow negativity to whisper in your ear. Kick those negative thoughts to the curb and keep going.
• Have a why. Why are you writing? There isn’t a right or wrong answer. It’s whatever makes you want to express yourself through words. Don’t lose sight of the why.

Every parent has those moments when either your child does something less than stellar, or a bad parenting decision backfires. I have three children and three grandchildren, so I have experienced many of those moments. I hope you enjoy the moments I share, and I hope they make you laugh and realize that you are not alone when your parenting efforts do not work out.

There were a few unfortunate moments that occurred because of sleep deprivation. One day, a student came up to me while everyone was working on an activity and quietly told me the zipper was down on my skirt, I came to school when I was eight months pregnant with two different colored shoes because I had to get dressed in the dark, and I couldn’t see my feet anyways.

My oldest has always hated milk, but we thought we had to give her milk to keep her healthy. One night, the people in the apartment below us called and said there was a strange substance on their wall coming from our apartment. They said it looked like chocolate milk. We went over and looked behind the hope chest and saw that our daughter had been dumping her chocolate milk there when we left the room. There was also some mac-n-cheese back there.

The oldest was also my temper-tantrum queen. I was in the grocery store with a full cart when she fell on the ground, started to scream, and kicked her legs and arms. Everyone around me started to look at me as if I must have done something terrible to her, so I picked her up, left the cart, and went home.

My middle child is an artist. He is always trying to observe everything at once which can lead to a lack of focus. We were out riding our bikes when he started to head straight for a parked car. I should have called out a warning, but I thought, “He must see it.” He did not so he smacked right into it and I felt awful.

We were in a restaurant one night when my youngest who was six months at the time had a massive diaper blowout. I needed to get her out to the car to change her diaper and clean her, but I was also covered with poop. How could I walk through the restaurant like that? I knew I had to, so I picked her up and moved as quickly outside as possible. I cleaned both of us and decided to play with the baby in the car until everyone was done.

Those are only a few of those embarrassing moments. We all have them and we will survive to fail another day.

Although I was a cross-country coach for years, I struggled with following the advice I gave my runners about the start of a race. I used to always say, “Don’t be pulled into the excitement of the race start. You don’t want to start too fast and then struggle the rest of the race.” My friends make fun of me because I almost always say, “I’m going to run for fun today. I’m starting very slowly.” Part of me believes this will happen, but then the gun goes off and my brain convinces me I can run with the people in the front. Unfortunately, my body is very angry with my brain around mile two. I decided I needed a way to start better, so I decided to play the game that a runner named Jenny used to play.

When the gun went off at the meet and a throng of runners headed for the trail, Jenny stayed behind, so she was starting dead last. She then began to pass people one after another. She did this so effectively that she was always in the top three at the end. I decided to do this the day after I had an AFIB incident. I didn’t want to run too hard, so I started very slowly. People were flying past me and I remember thinking, “I’m going to be last.” My friend who was running with me helped when he said, “I guarantee we will see most of those people in another mile.” I kept a steady pace and passed as many people as I could. I felt stronger running at a steady pace than if I had gone out fast, and my finishing time was better than usual.

I discovered another running game when we lived in North Georgia. I call it the runner’s ruse. When I took karate my sensei always told us that we never wanted to look like an attractive target. The same is true in running. We see the same people at local races, and there will always be people who target you as the person they want to beat. The runner’s ruse is when you convince them that you will not be in any competition because you are temporarily off your game.

I knew the master at this game. At every race, he would tell everyone who would listen about all his injuries, or how little sleep he had the night before. What was funny was people believed him. He crushed his competition every time. I used it once with a woman who runs about the same speed as I do. I told her I was going to run slowly because my knee was sore. She decided I wasn’t a threat and lined up in the back. At the end, she said, “I thought your knee was sore!”

Another game that’s fun is to choose someone slightly faster than you and run with her as long as you can. Falling into a good pace even if it is a little challenging will help to improve your time.

A game for hills is as you start the climb encourage someone next to you who may have started walking. When they start to run it’s hard not to keep going even though you want to walk because it looks bad. If I yell, “It’s only a hill! C’mon let’s keep going!” but then I start walking in a few feet it doesn’t look good.

Start thinking about anything but running. You can look at the people around you, enjoy the scenery, think about what you want for breakfast, or solve a problem. You want to distract yourself.

Write your social media post about the race in your mind. Do you want to talk about glory or a struggle? Either one makes a great story but choosing your narrative might help you push harder.

I hope you have your way of making running fun. What games do you play?

I am always looking for good writing advice because I want to continue to learn and grow, but there are a few things that I do not feel comfortable following. One of those pieces of advice is to find your niche, your specialty, and stick to that.

My problem with this is that it puts you in a box and limits your writing. I have so many interests and thoughts that I cannot imagine only being able to write about one of them. Not all of my ideas come from what I am passionate about sharing. Many of my ideas come from what I hear or see around me. I cannot ignore these ideas because they poke at my brain demanding to be released.

Another reason I don’t follow this advice is because if I stick to one niche I will be reaching a limited audience. I enjoy reading about a variety of topics and I would like to share a variety of topics with my readers. I love hearing the comments from readers from writing on different topics.

The final reason I would rather write on a variety of topics is if I only write about one topic I won’t be learning as much as I could if I research a variety of subjects.

I do understand the reason behind this advice. If you can stick to your niche you can make yourself an expert, but I believe if write on different topics you can broaden your horizons.

• You have to take care of yourself before you can take good care of others.

• 10 people can have 10 different perceptions of the same situation.

• Love is a beautiful answer to most situations.

• Positivity is powerful.

• Prayer works when it is the right prayer. Our plans and God’s plans are often different, but his are ultimately better.

• Smile at your enemies because it will drive them crazy.

• Quality, not quantity is what counts when it comes to friends.

• Keep growing and becoming.

• Laughter will make you feel better.

• Do the things that bring you peace.

I wish I could say all the arrows missed, that they didn’t cause me pain

But I have to admit that most hit their mark, and I seek solace in the rain

I have to retreat and regroup my mind. Instead of lashing back, I strive to be kind

Banish hateful words and actions, turn the other cheek

Feeling emotions does not make me weak

People can be difficult, and hurtful to the core

But love is still the answer to give

Because love is what we all need to feel more

Age can take a toll on our mind and body, but does it have to be that way, or are there steps we can take to slow the aging process down? The answer to that is a resounding yes. There are proven ways to slow the aging process, and as long as we can practice what we know works instead of making excuses for abusing our bodies, and not stimulating our minds, we can age well.

You may be thinking that the word abuse is too harsh for how you treat your body, but if you are overweight, sedentary, and consistently putting processed, fatty food in your body, you are not taking care of yourself. You can make some changes that will lead you to better health. Here are a few ideas.

Eat color

This is such a simple way to know what food is healthy to eat. Orange sweet potatoes, red and green apples, bright peppers, and many more choices can decorate your plate and fuel your body.

Drink water

We need water to survive, so it makes sense that it will help our health in so many ways. I had a doctor tell me that when I was tired I should drink a glass of water to energize myself. It is also a way to control your eating by drinking a glass of water before meals.

Move

Our bodies were meant to move. Being too sedentary can cause a lack of flexibility, weak muscles, and weight gain. This one is personal to me because I have seen what a sedentary lifestyle can do to a family member. At a time when she should be enjoying retirement, she has difficulty moving and she is struggling with a variety of health concerns related to a lack of movement.

Sleep well

Our sleep affects everything. If we don’t sleep well we suffer from brain fog, feel irritable, and don’t perform well. When we sleep well our health, and our quality of life is better.

Find a community

If you have read the book, The Blue Zones which details why people live to be 100, you know that one of the recommendations is to be part of a community. When we belong to a group we are happier.

Read

Reading not only increases your knowledge it also allows you to escape into a fantasy world and enjoy a good story.

Do what brings you peace

Whatever makes you smile when you do it is what you should do more. I am smiling the whole time when I run, read, and write.

Laugh

It is hard not to be happy when you are laughing, and laughter is the best way to feel young.

Have a hobby

Find an interest that engages your mind and never feel too old to do something new. I started guitar lessons two years ago and all the other students were very young, but I loved learning to play. Keep your brain stimulated.

Stay positive

Your outlook on life affects your mental health so stay positive.

I hope this list gives you some ideas to stay strong in your older years.